Long before becoming known for relationship advice, April built a career marked by unconventional achievements in entertainment and event production. Her early work demonstrated a consistent willingness to challenge assumptions, pursue outcomes considered unattainable — and succeed in delivering them.
Baywatch
The Iconic Hijacking of the World’s #1 TV Series from Australia for Hawaii
One the most notable examples occurred when while Prime Minister Howard of Australia was announcing Baywatch’s arrival to the Australian press, April, despite having no prior relationship with the show’s executive producer, Gregg Bonann, successfully convinced him to reconsider the planned move to Australia and bring Baywatch to Hawaii instead.
Gregg canceled his meeting with the Prime Minister and flew to meet Governor Ben Cayetano, and historic legislation quickly followed, co-written by April, requiring the show to rename itself Baywatch Hawaii, hire 80% local crew, and cast two Hawaii residents as lead characters — one of whom was a then-unknown Jason Mamoa.
The impact was transformative: more than 150 full-time jobs, roughly $20 million a year in local spending, and global exposure reaching an estimated 5.7 billion viewers.
Miss Universe
The Legend of April’s Army, Breaking Records and Making History
As co-chair of the Miss Universe Pageant in Hawaii, April Masini assembled and led ‘April’s Army’ — more than 500 volunteers of all ages, most with zero event experience.
Working entirely for free, day and night for three straight months, they produced nine back-to-back world-class events. The team broke two state records and made history, including staging the largest weekday parade in Hawai‘i’s history and the icon “Share Aloha with the World” children’s art contest that turned a beauty pageant into a learning experience and airport hallways into art galleries.
All 2,987 pieces of submitted artwork remain permanently displayed throughout Hawaii’s airports today, as mandated by Governor Ben Cayetano.
On it’s twenty-five anniversary, “Share Aloha with the World” proved to be one of the most enduring and longest-displayed showcases of children’s artwork in U.S. history.
‘April’s Army’ performance was so outstanding that it led President Donald Trump to spend three hours personally thanking each of them. Trump told each volunteer that they had exceeded every expectation and outperformed all of the paid professionals before them; “You are the standard. You are The Best”.
Blue Crush
A Gift of A Lifetime, Perpetual and in Perpetuity
April’s deal with Universal Studios for Blue Crush pioneered the first-ever cross-promotion between a U.S. state and a Hollywood studio — and what makes it all the more remarkable is that April was acting as a private citizen, not a government employee, when she negotiated and signed it.
The historic terms — including the never-before-done state–studio cross-promotion and the gift in perpetuity to Hawaii of Blue Crush film footage and all marketing collateral — are specified in her personal contract with Universal Studios. Hawaii received global marketing exposure alongside the film’s worldwide release, and those unprecedented rights were secured in perpetuity and royalty-free.
Legislation
Groundbreaking, Precedent Setting, and Pioneering
“April assisted in drafting and lobbying for industry-related legislation — including SB1958 for the Miss Universe Pageant and HB2960 for Baywatch Hawaii — producing measurable outcomes, most notably transforming Hawaii’s $2.7 million public investment into $66 million in international media exposure and advertising. Later, as founder and CEO of Masini Enterprises, April leveraged Hawaii’s newly enacted Act 221 to raise approximately $18 million in financing for Universal Studios’ Blue Crush, forging a strategic relationship between Universal and the Hawaii Visitors and Convention Bureau.”
“April Masini almost single-handedly revived Hawaii’s television and film industry.”
Governor Ben Cayetano
Imi Loa Magazine
“April's events have set the bar. This is the standard by which all others will be measured.”
President Donald Trump
(former owner, Miss Universe Organization)
“April Masini doesn’t dabble at anything. She changes the math.”
Daniel Akaka
United States Senator
“April Masini proved a highly capable and extremely effective president.”
Tony Eames
Retired President & CEO, Coca-Cola Ltd.
“April is the most naturally gifted marketing strategist I have ever encountered.”
Thomas H. Patrick
Former Vice Chair, Merrill Lynch & Co.
“April is precedent-setting. She's a game-changer.”
Gregg Bonann
Baywatch Executive Producer & Creator
“April Masini is the real deal. If she tells you she will do something, believe her. I can tell you from experience, without fail, April always delivers.”
Randy Bernard
Chairman of the Academy of Country Music & Manager of Garth Brooks
“What I have witnessed over eight years is a person who brings a consistent level of excellence to all she does.”
Tomas J. Philipson
First Trump Administration, Chairman, Council of Economic Advisers
“No and ‘can’t’ simply are not in April’s vocabulary.”
Mark Takai
United States House of Representatives
“April’s positive impact on Hawaii is unparalleled.”
Vicky Cayetano
Former First Lady of Hawai‘i
Press & Media Appearances
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Relationship expert April Masini reveals to Medical Daily: “Dirty Talk takes sex life to a new levelbecause it’s about more than just the physical.”
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Masini warns, “When people have hate sex and think it means something other than what it is, it’s not so healthy.”
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Try not to end things out of anger, suggests April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert. Endings are just as important as beginnings, as they allow you to “redefine your communication skills, the way you define yourself and your relationships with others.” Tell your partner or spouse “how much you loved them and what you would never erase,” she says.
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The final problem, according to Masini, is disrespect. “If your friend doesn’t respect your time or your money, that’s a deal breaker. When your friend is always borrowing money, but never paying any of it back, and worse — feels insulted when you ask to be paid back, there’s not enough respect in this relationship to make it go the distance.
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“Wearing black on its own isn’t going to get you hired, but if the planets align and you’ve got a good resume, a good interview technique and the job is a good fit for you, something like wearing black can tip the scales in your favor,” she said. “What wearing black shows an interviewer is that you’re in the mix.
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“It’s easy to whisk someone off to a great restaurant and get excellent concert seat tickets if you’re wealthy, but if you’re not, and you’re playing the field or dating someone new regularly, your wallet will take the hit,” said Masini. “Unless you can understand that romance doesn’t have to be pricey.”
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The newlywed cites April Masini, “a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert and author. “There’s no question about it: men are visual – at all ages – and they want you to look attractive, and they want their friends to be jealous.
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Even long-married couples can crack with mass exposure to family as both people vibrate to their own and their spouse’s family expectations and demands. “Pressures like money, career and fertility become more of an issue when families get together,” says advice columnist April Masini of the AskApril.com relationship website.
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“If you have fond feelings — or can’t let go of the fact that you’re no longer connected by marriage — keeping your married last name after divorce is a way to hold on,” Masini says. “It’s also a way to thwart a subsequent marriage your ex may enter into by being ‘the other Mr. or Mrs. so-and-so.'”
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April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert and author of four books offering relationship advice, suggests these tips for improving chances of office romance success: “No making out in the utility closet or on the conference room table — at least not during work hours.”
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“Don’t wait until you’ve booked the venue, sent the invitations and had a final fitting on the gown that is being shipped from Italy,” says April Masini, a relationship advice expert and author of the “Ask April” advice column and online forum.
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Practice in front of a mirror and choose a secure location to avoid having unexpected visitors, she wrote. “And wear real pants, just in case there’s a mirror behind you and you realize too late that the hiring people will see your waist-up-at-the-desk attire, as well as your waist-down sweatpants and bare feet that you thought were hidden,” she added.
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Generally speaking, Masini said, parenting through restaurant situations may have more to do with broader issues. “When a child finger paints the table with ketchup, you’re not looking at a genius toddler’s baby Rorschach blot art,” she said. “You’re looking at a child in need of boundaries and socialization.”
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When it comes to politics, says Masini, some people become vigilant about their views, and that creates a stand off. “If you feel you’re with people who are going to take a dug-in stance, and you’re not up for a family feud, by all means, bring up the weather,” she says.
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Under no circumstances should you proceed without a rock-solid lease agreement. “The cool person you met on Craigslist may not turn out to be whom you thought they were,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and advice columnist at US site AskApril.com. “Your lease should have a start and end date.”
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However, Masini warns, if communication starts to interfere with your ability to get through the day, then it is a sign that something is wrong. Communication, he continued, should not make it difficult for you to concentrate at work. “If this happens, it’s time to set some boundaries,” Masini said.
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“Mixing it up and varying friends and entertaining options is another way to expand your focus and see that there are lots of different ways to entertain and lots of different ways children behave,” says April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert.
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“The other day somebody was taking pictures of herself posing in the mirror. She had a great physique, don’t get me wrong—but other people were in the locker room!” says April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert who isn’t shy about policing tech behavior of fellow gym members at Busy Body Fitness, in Boca Raton, Fla.
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“You may find a secret bank account that your partner was keeping to buy you a birthday present they didn’t want you to know about,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and author. “When you find a financial secret, calmly ask (your partner about it). Waiting and gabbing with friends and family turns the secret into gossip and creates a festering wound — and you’ll probably pounce on your partner and demand to know why they’re treating you this way.” “If your partner is a chronic liar, don’t expect financial honesty. Financial secrets don’t happen in a vacuum. They happen because of personalities and relationship dynamics. It’s not usually about the money. It’s about feelings.”
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“Men are very often more sensitive than women, despite stereotypes you’ve heard,” says relationship expert April Masini. “It’s a lot easier for men to become depressed or unhappy than women in the same circumstances. Men are sensitive, and when they’re unhappy, the marriage dynamic flags.” Indeed, when the goin’ gets tough, women get tougher – especially over time.
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“Bottom line, in most homes and most relationships where there is a man and a woman, the man makes more. Not in all — but in most,” April Masini, relationship expert and founder of Ask April, an online relationship advice forum. “That simple fact makes men more sensitive to overspending in the relationship. “Likewise, when women don’t feel they have control over a relationship’s income, they’re more sensitive to that income,” she continued.
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And sometimes, it seems impossible to bite your tongue. In those moments, you may let words slip that you wish you could take back. “No matter how ill behaved she is, she is the mother of the man you love, and deserves respect for that reason,” says relationship expert April Masini. So before you spit out the following words without thinking, consider these more demure, peace-keeping alternatives:
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Resorting to drinking, doing drugs or gambling might dull the immediate pain of financial stress but, in the long run, will often make the underlying problem worse, said April Masini, relationship and etiquette expert and author of the advice column “Ask April.” Instead, face up to your money problems. “The discomfort you’re feeling is your friend. It’s a hint that you need to make some changes in your life,” she added.
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Take responsibility. It’s easy to point fingers at someone you believe has wronged you, like a significant other who dumps you with seemingly little or no warning, says April Masini, who provides relationship advice on her “Ask April” online advice forum. “Ask yourself what your contribution to the relationship was, and what your part in the break-up was,” she says. “Rarely is a break-up because of one person. More likely, it’s because of an incompatibility that you either ignored or thought you could bridge. And couldn’t. When you realize the blame you’re attributing to an ex doesn’t belong to him or her, it’s easy to forgive.”
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As April Masini, online advice columnist at AskApril.com, says , “What most people consider sabotage doesn’t usually happen in a vacuum. And if you say it happened behind your back, ask yourself if you turned your back.” She says that if you’ve been willfully ignoring a husband or wife’s “questionable financial moves, it’s unfair to call it sabotage. Both spouses have a responsibility to stay informed.”
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“Your written memories are going to be like Christmas ornaments on a tree,” Ms. Masini wrote. “Help the bereaved grieve and remember fondly the one they’ve lost with your detailed anecdotes, memories and compliments.”
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“Shame is the feeling you get when you’ve done something wrong, and you think you should have known better,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and author who also runs an online relationship advice forum.
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“The challenge for travel service providers is large,” etiquette expert April Masini says. “But it’s surmountable. There’s no good excuse for bad manners on planes, trains and automobiles.”
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“One of the reasons that people are indecisive is because they’re trying to please more than one person at the same time,” says relationship expert April Masini. You may be trying to make a decision that “a spouse or parent will be proud of, but it’s not the way you’ve wanted your life to go,” Masini said. “Decisions will not come easily because you’re serving two masters — or trying to.”
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But if you’re both satisfied, don’t sweat it if your usual twice-a-week romp turns into twice a month. “Sex is a barometer of a relationship, but so too is physical affection like cuddling,” explains April Masini, relationship expert, author, and founder of AskApril.com.
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“With revenge still on the mind and in the heart, it’s very easy to want to replace the missing limb. Resist, advises April Masini, a New York–based relationship and etiquette expert. “After a painful breakup, being single for a while is the best way to ensure that your next relationship is not impulsive, haphazard and doomed for a repeat breakup,” she says. “Take some time to process what happened and where things didn’t go as you had hoped—and what you want to do differently next time.” When it comes to bad-mouthing your ex, zip it. That’s not the right move for getting over a breakup. “Trash talk reflects more on you than it does on your ex,” Masini says. It’s not polite, attractive or productive. “It drags you down into the mud when what you need is to rise above.” Even though you’re hurting, try to be the bigger person by staying silent about your ex. The exception to the rule? You can, of course, confide in your close friends and family.”
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“When you spend without telling your partner, they will find out, and there will be a double whammy to deal with,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and founder of Ask April, an online relationship advice forum. “One is the amount you spent. Two is the mistrust you start to build when you betray your partner financially. Secret spending isn’t just about money. It’s about trust.”
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Confront your jealousy head on, agrees advice columnist April Masini. If your sister has a solid marriage and your husband just left you, tell her flat out, “You’re so lucky to be married to such a great guy. I wish I were.”
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“Infidelity isn’t the end of the marriage or the relationship,” relationship expert April Masini told Woman’s Day. “The most important thing to remember is that most infidelities are a symptom of a problem in the relationship. They don’t mean something is wrong with the person who cheated or the person who was cheated on. When couples can see infidelity as a relationship problem, they are more likely to be able to work on the relationship and go the distance.”
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No matter how you say, “I’m sorry,” being able to apologize — to genuinely feel and say you’re sorry — is extremely important to a relationship, says April Masini, a California-based dating and relationship advice columnist on AskAprilOnline.com. Why? Because it means you’re willing to put your ego (you know that little voice inside your head that tells you you’re always right) aside for the good of the relationship. “It shows that you’re a big enough person to admit when you’ve done something wrong, and care enough about your partner’s feelings to confess,” Masini says.
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“But etiquette and relationship expert April Masini, who runs relationship-advice forum Ask April, sees it differently. “When a person is late, you’re seeing a personality trait that’s about being self-involved. When you have a meeting or a start time and someone misses it over and over, they are giving you a little, silent middle finger.” “There’s a woman who always waltzes into meetings 15 minutes late. Meanwhile, I skipped breakfast with my kids so I could get there on time,” adding that five other people were also on time. “Selfish and inconsiderate,” she says.
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“The relationship your adult children have with a new partner can be smooth sailing or a deal breaker in your relationship,” says April Masini, a relationship columnist and author. “If your ex is miserable and blames you for his or her misery, there’s a good chance that will affect your adult children,” Masini says. “If you’re ex is happy and healthy, you’re more likely to have smoother sailing.”
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New York-based relationship and etiquette expert April Masini added that you should convey information to children based on their needs and ensure that they know that you will all survive this situation. “They may know you’re disappointed, but they really need to know that they won’t lose you,” Masini said, no matter how old they were.
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“So when I hear a man share his problems, pains, issues and frustrations — it is reassuring that we will be OK.” But finding that support could help dispel those feelings, relationship expert April Masini told HuffPost Canada by email. “When they have a support group, they’re not alone in these feelings of weakness,” Masini said. “When men form support groups they can express and refute this feeling that weakness means failure. It doesn’t, but sometimes it takes a group to help dispel them of their myths.”
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“Questions about money, on dates, can be awesome — or horrifying — depending on how they’re asked,” said April Masini, an etiquette expert who runs the relationship advice forum Ask April. “First, understand that having a big fight is less important than getting to the truth in a relationship,” Masini said. “Sometimes, fights are important, and avoiding fights can create layers of lies and miscommunication or misunderstandings.”
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What this means in terms of real estate is that you’ll need a co-signer, more roommates or more years living at home with Mom and Dad. Cue the sound of a deflating, romantic heart, says April Masini, a relationship expert and founder of relationship advice forum AskApril.com
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Money can’t buy love, as the old saying goes, and people who look only at financial profiles could be limiting their dating pool, said April Masini, a New York City-based relationship and etiquette expert and author.
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April Masini, a New York City-based relationship expert and psychotherapist, analyzed responses from women who are currently active on the online dating scene. “Grumpy curmudgeon will tell you what he’s not looking for, and direct it at you with a negative command like, ‘Don’t bother.’ My advice? Don’t bother responding.”
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Relationship and etiquette expert April Masini advised cutting ties. “If your ex wants to stay on your account because it’s cheaper for him or her — stay strong and use your boundaries. Apologize for the ‘account eviction’ and remove them from the account.”
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Relationship expert and author April Masini told INSIDER. “If you’re ghosted, understand that the person who ghosted you doesn’t have the tools to be in a mature relationship — or the character.”
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“Nobody wants to be distracted by gnarly toes, so keep yours on point and make sure your summer footwear is professional when you’re working,” says etiquette expert April Masini of AskApril.com, a relationship-advice blog.
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April Masini, a relationship expert, told INSIDER. “Most voters relate to what they’re used to, not just in their personal lives but what they are used to seeing in elected officials. The reality is that most elected officials are married.”
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First off, that’s not what LinkedIn is for, says April Masini, an etiquette and relationship expert. “[On LinkedIn] people should pretend they’re in a conference room before flirting, and then decide if what they’re about to say is best left unsaid — or better said in person, over lunch or on a weekend, where there’s no mistaking work for pleasure.”
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If you ask, you do so at your own risk. Relationship and etiquette expert April Masini says that while she think’s it’s fine to ask for any amount you’re owed, “when you start asking for small amounts, like a single dollar, you run the risk of being judged as petty.”
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When you turn your bed or your bedroom into your office, you’re sending a message to your partner — and yourself — that work is more important than intimacy, adds relationship expert April Masini, who hosts an online relationship advice forum.
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I hear from a lot of boyfriends and girlfriends who’ve purchased a home to cement a relationship,” says April Masini, the advice columnist who pens “Ask April” at AskApril.com. “They hope the home will make them a stronger couple,” Masini says. “What it does is make them a couple with a real estate interest.”
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To get some help, I spoke with relationship expert April Masini, who took over my profile and re-vamped it. “Generally speaking”, April Masini said “your profile is an ad.” Masini’s initial words of advice: first impressions count.
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But this sort of laissez-faire attitude and assumed tolerance is wrong, according to popular relationship and etiquette expert April Masini. Just because you’re cool with stealing a danish, it doesn’t mean the rightful danish owner is okay with it.”
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As April Masini, online advice columnist at AskApril.com, says, “What most people consider sabotage doesn’t usually happen in a vacuum. And if you say it happened behind your back, ask yourself if you turned your back.”
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According to relationship expert April Masini, the original Reddit poster is not in the wrong for wanting a new ring “This guy needs to get his priorities straight,” Masini told INSIDER. “If he wants someone to say yes to a proposal to spend the rest of her life with him, why not start out with grace and generosity? In other words … get a new ring!”
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“Even seemingly innocuous social-media shares, like your positive pregnancy-test stick, political bumper stickers or religious icons, may turn off an employer,” says etiquette expert April Masini.
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Also, many of the commonly held beliefs about dating a younger man or woman — for instance, that a junior partner may lack maturity — aren’t true, relationship expert and columnist April Masini told Fox News.
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Some companies, particularly start-ups, conduct first interviews via video-chat services like Skype. Preparing for them is crucial, April Masini, who writes about relationships and etiquette for her website Ask April.
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Sports became a bonding glue when the old boys’ network ruled, said April Masini, who writes about dating and relationships for her online magazine, AskApril.com.
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April Masini, who writes about relationships and etiquette for her website, AskApril.com, suggested taking preventive steps. “Put a neon Post-it on important papers, a big, colorful bell-type key chain toggle on your keys and keep the ringer on your phone (which, ideally, is in a rainbow-colored OtterBox) so you can call it.
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If the person you are visiting prefers that you take your shoes off, it’s sound etiquette to abide by their wishes, said April Masini, who writes about relationships and etiquette for her website, Ask April.
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“Your written memories are going to be like Christmas ornaments on a tree,” Ms. Masini wrote.
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“Unless the two of you are on a photography safari through the city or country as a first date, there is no reason in the world for a selfie stick,” Masini warned.
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April Masini, a New York relationship and etiquette expert who writes a column called Ask April, said parents should consider limiting restaurant forays with small children to fast-food restaurants. “The operative word is fast,” she said.
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April Masini, a relationship and etiquette experts based in New York City. “For instance, lingerie is not an appropriate gift for your boss.
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Relationship expert April Masini, author of “Date Out of Your League”, explains, “When a man is ready to become a husband — your husband — he starts acting like a husband.
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Relationship expert April Masini reveals to Medical Daily: “Dirty Talk takes sex life to a new levelbecause it’s about more than just the physical.”
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Masini warns, “When people have hate sex and think it means something other than what it is, it’s not so healthy.”
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Try not to end things out of anger, suggests April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert. Endings are just as important as beginnings, as they allow you to “redefine your communication skills, the way you define yourself and your relationships with others.” Tell your partner or spouse “how much you loved them and what you would never erase,” she says.
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The final problem, according to Masini, is disrespect. “If your friend doesn’t respect your time or your money, that’s a deal breaker. When your friend is always borrowing money, but never paying any of it back, and worse — feels insulted when you ask to be paid back, there’s not enough respect in this relationship to make it go the distance.
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“Wearing black on its own isn’t going to get you hired, but if the planets align and you’ve got a good resume, a good interview technique and the job is a good fit for you, something like wearing black can tip the scales in your favor,” she said. “What wearing black shows an interviewer is that you’re in the mix.
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“It’s easy to whisk someone off to a great restaurant and get excellent concert seat tickets if you’re wealthy, but if you’re not, and you’re playing the field or dating someone new regularly, your wallet will take the hit,” said Masini. “Unless you can understand that romance doesn’t have to be pricey.”
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The newlywed cites April Masini, “a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert and author. “There’s no question about it: men are visual – at all ages – and they want you to look attractive, and they want their friends to be jealous.
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Even long-married couples can crack with mass exposure to family as both people vibrate to their own and their spouse’s family expectations and demands. “Pressures like money, career and fertility become more of an issue when families get together,” says advice columnist April Masini of the AskApril.com relationship website.
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“If you have fond feelings — or can’t let go of the fact that you’re no longer connected by marriage — keeping your married last name after divorce is a way to hold on,” Masini says. “It’s also a way to thwart a subsequent marriage your ex may enter into by being ‘the other Mr. or Mrs. so-and-so.'”
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April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert and author of four books offering relationship advice, suggests these tips for improving chances of office romance success: “No making out in the utility closet or on the conference room table — at least not during work hours.”
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“Don’t wait until you’ve booked the venue, sent the invitations and had a final fitting on the gown that is being shipped from Italy,” says April Masini, a relationship advice expert and author of the “Ask April” advice column and online forum.
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Practice in front of a mirror and choose a secure location to avoid having unexpected visitors, she wrote. “And wear real pants, just in case there’s a mirror behind you and you realize too late that the hiring people will see your waist-up-at-the-desk attire, as well as your waist-down sweatpants and bare feet that you thought were hidden,” she added.
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Generally speaking, Masini said, parenting through restaurant situations may have more to do with broader issues. “When a child finger paints the table with ketchup, you’re not looking at a genius toddler’s baby Rorschach blot art,” she said. “You’re looking at a child in need of boundaries and socialization.”
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When it comes to politics, says Masini, some people become vigilant about their views, and that creates a stand off. “If you feel you’re with people who are going to take a dug-in stance, and you’re not up for a family feud, by all means, bring up the weather,” she says.
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Under no circumstances should you proceed without a rock-solid lease agreement. “The cool person you met on Craigslist may not turn out to be whom you thought they were,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and advice columnist at US site AskApril.com. “Your lease should have a start and end date.”
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However, Masini warns, if communication starts to interfere with your ability to get through the day, then it is a sign that something is wrong. Communication, he continued, should not make it difficult for you to concentrate at work. “If this happens, it’s time to set some boundaries,” Masini said.
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“Mixing it up and varying friends and entertaining options is another way to expand your focus and see that there are lots of different ways to entertain and lots of different ways children behave,” says April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert.
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“The other day somebody was taking pictures of herself posing in the mirror. She had a great physique, don’t get me wrong—but other people were in the locker room!” says April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert who isn’t shy about policing tech behavior of fellow gym members at Busy Body Fitness, in Boca Raton, Fla.
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“You may find a secret bank account that your partner was keeping to buy you a birthday present they didn’t want you to know about,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and author. “When you find a financial secret, calmly ask (your partner about it). Waiting and gabbing with friends and family turns the secret into gossip and creates a festering wound — and you’ll probably pounce on your partner and demand to know why they’re treating you this way.” “If your partner is a chronic liar, don’t expect financial honesty. Financial secrets don’t happen in a vacuum. They happen because of personalities and relationship dynamics. It’s not usually about the money. It’s about feelings.”
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“Men are very often more sensitive than women, despite stereotypes you’ve heard,” says relationship expert April Masini. “It’s a lot easier for men to become depressed or unhappy than women in the same circumstances. Men are sensitive, and when they’re unhappy, the marriage dynamic flags.” Indeed, when the goin’ gets tough, women get tougher – especially over time.
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“Bottom line, in most homes and most relationships where there is a man and a woman, the man makes more. Not in all — but in most,” April Masini, relationship expert and founder of Ask April, an online relationship advice forum. “That simple fact makes men more sensitive to overspending in the relationship. “Likewise, when women don’t feel they have control over a relationship’s income, they’re more sensitive to that income,” she continued.
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And sometimes, it seems impossible to bite your tongue. In those moments, you may let words slip that you wish you could take back. “No matter how ill behaved she is, she is the mother of the man you love, and deserves respect for that reason,” says relationship expert April Masini. So before you spit out the following words without thinking, consider these more demure, peace-keeping alternatives:
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Resorting to drinking, doing drugs or gambling might dull the immediate pain of financial stress but, in the long run, will often make the underlying problem worse, said April Masini, relationship and etiquette expert and author of the advice column “Ask April.” Instead, face up to your money problems. “The discomfort you’re feeling is your friend. It’s a hint that you need to make some changes in your life,” she added.
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Take responsibility. It’s easy to point fingers at someone you believe has wronged you, like a significant other who dumps you with seemingly little or no warning, says April Masini, who provides relationship advice on her “Ask April” online advice forum. “Ask yourself what your contribution to the relationship was, and what your part in the break-up was,” she says. “Rarely is a break-up because of one person. More likely, it’s because of an incompatibility that you either ignored or thought you could bridge. And couldn’t. When you realize the blame you’re attributing to an ex doesn’t belong to him or her, it’s easy to forgive.”
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As April Masini, online advice columnist at AskApril.com, says , “What most people consider sabotage doesn’t usually happen in a vacuum. And if you say it happened behind your back, ask yourself if you turned your back.” She says that if you’ve been willfully ignoring a husband or wife’s “questionable financial moves, it’s unfair to call it sabotage. Both spouses have a responsibility to stay informed.”
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“Your written memories are going to be like Christmas ornaments on a tree,” Ms. Masini wrote. “Help the bereaved grieve and remember fondly the one they’ve lost with your detailed anecdotes, memories and compliments.”
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“Shame is the feeling you get when you’ve done something wrong, and you think you should have known better,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and author who also runs an online relationship advice forum.
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“The challenge for travel service providers is large,” etiquette expert April Masini says. “But it’s surmountable. There’s no good excuse for bad manners on planes, trains and automobiles.”
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“One of the reasons that people are indecisive is because they’re trying to please more than one person at the same time,” says relationship expert April Masini. You may be trying to make a decision that “a spouse or parent will be proud of, but it’s not the way you’ve wanted your life to go,” Masini said. “Decisions will not come easily because you’re serving two masters — or trying to.”
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But if you’re both satisfied, don’t sweat it if your usual twice-a-week romp turns into twice a month. “Sex is a barometer of a relationship, but so too is physical affection like cuddling,” explains April Masini, relationship expert, author, and founder of AskApril.com.
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“With revenge still on the mind and in the heart, it’s very easy to want to replace the missing limb. Resist, advises April Masini, a New York–based relationship and etiquette expert. “After a painful breakup, being single for a while is the best way to ensure that your next relationship is not impulsive, haphazard and doomed for a repeat breakup,” she says. “Take some time to process what happened and where things didn’t go as you had hoped—and what you want to do differently next time.” When it comes to bad-mouthing your ex, zip it. That’s not the right move for getting over a breakup. “Trash talk reflects more on you than it does on your ex,” Masini says. It’s not polite, attractive or productive. “It drags you down into the mud when what you need is to rise above.” Even though you’re hurting, try to be the bigger person by staying silent about your ex. The exception to the rule? You can, of course, confide in your close friends and family.”
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“When you spend without telling your partner, they will find out, and there will be a double whammy to deal with,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and founder of Ask April, an online relationship advice forum. “One is the amount you spent. Two is the mistrust you start to build when you betray your partner financially. Secret spending isn’t just about money. It’s about trust.”
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Confront your jealousy head on, agrees advice columnist April Masini. If your sister has a solid marriage and your husband just left you, tell her flat out, “You’re so lucky to be married to such a great guy. I wish I were.”
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“Infidelity isn’t the end of the marriage or the relationship,” relationship expert April Masini told Woman’s Day. “The most important thing to remember is that most infidelities are a symptom of a problem in the relationship. They don’t mean something is wrong with the person who cheated or the person who was cheated on. When couples can see infidelity as a relationship problem, they are more likely to be able to work on the relationship and go the distance.”
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No matter how you say, “I’m sorry,” being able to apologize — to genuinely feel and say you’re sorry — is extremely important to a relationship, says April Masini, a California-based dating and relationship advice columnist on AskAprilOnline.com. Why? Because it means you’re willing to put your ego (you know that little voice inside your head that tells you you’re always right) aside for the good of the relationship. “It shows that you’re a big enough person to admit when you’ve done something wrong, and care enough about your partner’s feelings to confess,” Masini says.
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“But etiquette and relationship expert April Masini, who runs relationship-advice forum Ask April, sees it differently. “When a person is late, you’re seeing a personality trait that’s about being self-involved. When you have a meeting or a start time and someone misses it over and over, they are giving you a little, silent middle finger.” “There’s a woman who always waltzes into meetings 15 minutes late. Meanwhile, I skipped breakfast with my kids so I could get there on time,” adding that five other people were also on time. “Selfish and inconsiderate,” she says.
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“The relationship your adult children have with a new partner can be smooth sailing or a deal breaker in your relationship,” says April Masini, a relationship columnist and author. “If your ex is miserable and blames you for his or her misery, there’s a good chance that will affect your adult children,” Masini says. “If you’re ex is happy and healthy, you’re more likely to have smoother sailing.”
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New York-based relationship and etiquette expert April Masini added that you should convey information to children based on their needs and ensure that they know that you will all survive this situation. “They may know you’re disappointed, but they really need to know that they won’t lose you,” Masini said, no matter how old they were.
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“So when I hear a man share his problems, pains, issues and frustrations — it is reassuring that we will be OK.” But finding that support could help dispel those feelings, relationship expert April Masini told HuffPost Canada by email. “When they have a support group, they’re not alone in these feelings of weakness,” Masini said. “When men form support groups they can express and refute this feeling that weakness means failure. It doesn’t, but sometimes it takes a group to help dispel them of their myths.”
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“Questions about money, on dates, can be awesome — or horrifying — depending on how they’re asked,” said April Masini, an etiquette expert who runs the relationship advice forum Ask April. “First, understand that having a big fight is less important than getting to the truth in a relationship,” Masini said. “Sometimes, fights are important, and avoiding fights can create layers of lies and miscommunication or misunderstandings.”
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What this means in terms of real estate is that you’ll need a co-signer, more roommates or more years living at home with Mom and Dad. Cue the sound of a deflating, romantic heart, says April Masini, a relationship expert and founder of relationship advice forum AskApril.com
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Money can’t buy love, as the old saying goes, and people who look only at financial profiles could be limiting their dating pool, said April Masini, a New York City-based relationship and etiquette expert and author.
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April Masini, a New York City-based relationship expert and psychotherapist, analyzed responses from women who are currently active on the online dating scene. “Grumpy curmudgeon will tell you what he’s not looking for, and direct it at you with a negative command like, ‘Don’t bother.’ My advice? Don’t bother responding.”
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Relationship and etiquette expert April Masini advised cutting ties. “If your ex wants to stay on your account because it’s cheaper for him or her — stay strong and use your boundaries. Apologize for the ‘account eviction’ and remove them from the account.”
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Relationship expert and author April Masini told INSIDER. “If you’re ghosted, understand that the person who ghosted you doesn’t have the tools to be in a mature relationship — or the character.”
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“Nobody wants to be distracted by gnarly toes, so keep yours on point and make sure your summer footwear is professional when you’re working,” says etiquette expert April Masini of AskApril.com, a relationship-advice blog.
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April Masini, a relationship expert, told INSIDER. “Most voters relate to what they’re used to, not just in their personal lives but what they are used to seeing in elected officials. The reality is that most elected officials are married.”
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First off, that’s not what LinkedIn is for, says April Masini, an etiquette and relationship expert. “[On LinkedIn] people should pretend they’re in a conference room before flirting, and then decide if what they’re about to say is best left unsaid — or better said in person, over lunch or on a weekend, where there’s no mistaking work for pleasure.”
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If you ask, you do so at your own risk. Relationship and etiquette expert April Masini says that while she think’s it’s fine to ask for any amount you’re owed, “when you start asking for small amounts, like a single dollar, you run the risk of being judged as petty.”
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When you turn your bed or your bedroom into your office, you’re sending a message to your partner — and yourself — that work is more important than intimacy, adds relationship expert April Masini, who hosts an online relationship advice forum.
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I hear from a lot of boyfriends and girlfriends who’ve purchased a home to cement a relationship,” says April Masini, the advice columnist who pens “Ask April” at AskApril.com. “They hope the home will make them a stronger couple,” Masini says. “What it does is make them a couple with a real estate interest.”
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To get some help, I spoke with relationship expert April Masini, who took over my profile and re-vamped it. “Generally speaking”, April Masini said “your profile is an ad.” Masini’s initial words of advice: first impressions count.
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But this sort of laissez-faire attitude and assumed tolerance is wrong, according to popular relationship and etiquette expert April Masini. Just because you’re cool with stealing a danish, it doesn’t mean the rightful danish owner is okay with it.”
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As April Masini, online advice columnist at AskApril.com, says, “What most people consider sabotage doesn’t usually happen in a vacuum. And if you say it happened behind your back, ask yourself if you turned your back.”
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According to relationship expert April Masini, the original Reddit poster is not in the wrong for wanting a new ring “This guy needs to get his priorities straight,” Masini told INSIDER. “If he wants someone to say yes to a proposal to spend the rest of her life with him, why not start out with grace and generosity? In other words … get a new ring!”
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“Even seemingly innocuous social-media shares, like your positive pregnancy-test stick, political bumper stickers or religious icons, may turn off an employer,” says etiquette expert April Masini.
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Also, many of the commonly held beliefs about dating a younger man or woman — for instance, that a junior partner may lack maturity — aren’t true, relationship expert and columnist April Masini told Fox News.
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Some companies, particularly start-ups, conduct first interviews via video-chat services like Skype. Preparing for them is crucial, April Masini, who writes about relationships and etiquette for her website Ask April.
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Sports became a bonding glue when the old boys’ network ruled, said April Masini, who writes about dating and relationships for her online magazine, AskApril.com.
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April Masini, who writes about relationships and etiquette for her website, AskApril.com, suggested taking preventive steps. “Put a neon Post-it on important papers, a big, colorful bell-type key chain toggle on your keys and keep the ringer on your phone (which, ideally, is in a rainbow-colored OtterBox) so you can call it.
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If the person you are visiting prefers that you take your shoes off, it’s sound etiquette to abide by their wishes, said April Masini, who writes about relationships and etiquette for her website, Ask April.
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“Your written memories are going to be like Christmas ornaments on a tree,” Ms. Masini wrote.
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“Unless the two of you are on a photography safari through the city or country as a first date, there is no reason in the world for a selfie stick,” Masini warned.
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April Masini, a New York relationship and etiquette expert who writes a column called Ask April, said parents should consider limiting restaurant forays with small children to fast-food restaurants. “The operative word is fast,” she said.
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April Masini, a relationship and etiquette experts based in New York City. “For instance, lingerie is not an appropriate gift for your boss.
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Relationship expert April Masini, author of “Date Out of Your League”, explains, “When a man is ready to become a husband — your husband — he starts acting like a husband.
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